With Fathers day being this weekend I wanted to share something a little different today, we will be back to home decor and DIY tomorrow. Today and this weekend I wanted to pause though and share something a little sweeter and more close to my heart. I am sharing a Low cost Fathers day gift and a note to my Husband Dale. Also to all of the amazing Dads out there, this note is for them. When a Dad is in a child’s life it is pure magical perfection. I thought those supportive, loving men needed a little celebrating.
Being a Mom in today’s world gives us ladies some liberty’s. We have a all-access pass to the “mom tribe”. There are articles written in support of us, commercial’s geared towards us, whole brands make their focus of grabbing the attention of us Mom’s. However, there is a forgotten member to the family. My family has a secret weapon. We call him Daddy. I call him my husband.
He is the quiet supporter, the unsung hero of the family. He has had to navigate through the role of parenthood on his own. There is no Daddy tribe for him to turn to and get validation for his valiant efforts. Granted, there is never as much criticism for the Dads in the world. That does not mean they have it easy.
Men are the butt of many jokes, the safety net of parental jokes. My husband has been called a babysitter when with our children. As if he has no other role than that of watching the kids while I; the real parent am busy. He has been ridiculed by other Mommies for his lack of Mommy-like parental abilities. Dad’s in general are understood to be the assistant parent, my side kick.
However, my husband is the silent crusader. He takes the weight of the world, our home, financial situation and lack luster respect from the world and runs with it all. He shoulders it like a truly amazing man. He wakes up at 5 am every day so that he can leave the office by 3pm, still giving him plenty of time to throw a ball in the backyard with the kid’s. He has handled his career in a way that allows him to financially support us, a family of 5. All the while allowing him to never miss a ballet recital or preschool graduation.
He is the force to be reckoned with, but silently. He is the calm to my storm, the reason to my worry, the fun to my over planning. He is the other half to this equation. My husband is the monster scare-er, spider killer, muscle to this operation. He does it all with no request to be recognized for his efforts. No demand to be heard within the world as a legitimate Dad. He would laugh at that statement. Of course he is a Dad, he simply just is.
When a Dad is there, involved and present within a family he goes unnoticed. It is not until the Dad is missing, that is when the conversation begins. That is when the loss is felt. There is no greater gift to a child than to have a Daddy. To be raised by a strong, humble, kind, fun, and great man is a wonderful gift to be had.
My son’s see him as a true hero, a living, walking, talking, superman. They want to grow up and be him. They eat all of their vegetables (and everything in sight) in hopes of being as big as him. My daughter wants to marry him, ignoring the fact that he is spoken for. I am so proud of the man my son’s have to look up to. The example my daughter has of the way a man should treat a woman.
The generation my husband and I are in is forming new definitions of fatherhood. However, there is still an assumption and pressure for him to succeed in the workforce. To be 100% at work, and now 100% at home. Of course woman do this also. But, there is countless articles, Facebook status shares, and other numerous praise for this accomplishment with women. The modern, go to Dad of today gets nothing but a whisper of thank you.
This is the thing though. My husband, my kid’s Daddy needs nothing more. We are his Daddy tribe, we are all that matters. His humble and gracious way of handling being a Daddy puts me in awe. His quiet way of handling life’s stress puts any relaxation technique to shame. My husband can walk in the door after a long day and get lost in the imagination of building LEGO’s with the kids. He can create the biggest jungle gym ever by simply laying on the ground and rolling around with our trio of littles. He is the fun to our life, the ever present and much needed fun.
“What if I fall?” Oh but darling, what if you fly?”- Erin Hanson
With a Dad in a child’s life, that child will go far. A Dad truly can make you fly. With the unwavering support, un-celebrated, quietly whispered beauty of a Father. Along with his strong shoulders to carry you, eyes closed, and cape on. My dear, any child will fly!
I felt the need to focus on the special bond and strength a man brings to his family. The unwavering support and love a Dad gives to his children. So many are not fortunate enough to have a Dad in their life. For those men who are there, they make all of the difference and need to be acknowledged for the role and importance they are. Mom’s get the celebration, praise, we are the boss. But, Daddies deserve that same praise. On Fathers day we get the opportunity to hit them over the head with love, support and celebration.
Now that I got the note to my Husband out of the way it is time for a low cost gift I did a few years ago for him. We add to it each year and it is so special.
Let’s make the wonderful Daddies in our life feel the love. I hope your man knocked mothers day out of the park. He should have, you deserve it. I know Dale did wonderfully for me, with sentimental goodies as well as plans for us that day. I know anyone can go buy their Dad a tie, or a coffee mug. But it is the priceless and often times little to no money things that mean the most. I am going to give a quick, cheap, and sweet idea. It can be done in one afternoon for all you procrastinators.
All of the chalk in my house is worn down and icky, I hope you have some nice not kid ruined chalk stowed away if you put chalk on these mason jars. I guess the point is still there though, messy chalk and all.
I filled two mason jars I purchased from the Target dollar bin area with notes. One has notes from me, with why I love him. The other has notes from the kids with why they love their Daddy. There is about 25 in there. I thought about adding just one and each year adding to that. But the idea of telling my husband that this is why we love you and one measly paper is inside seems like a sad, sad day. So this is a one time thing. We can and I probably will add more to it. But fill it up however you want. Type it out, use letter stickers, or just pen like I did. Either way the words and their meaning are received the same way.
I tried to guide the kids to think of things. I wrote most of them down exactly how they said them. It was fun and sweet, and a little frustrating at times. They had some great things to say, some very sweet sentiments, and then some random ones I nixed. Such as… he has boogers, he wears shoes, he toots (farts). I did not think those were very “Daddy we love you” reasons. From myself I wrote some pretty standard ones, his smile, his eyes, and some inside joke ones only him and I would understand. It was fun to write. I thought of this because in life there is a lot of crazy happening. Going here, doing that, fixing this, disagreements, handling kids, animals, work, life, we don’t have the time to say how and why we love them. This is something he can go to, read and see just why he is the amazing man in our life. It is a constant visual reminder of him being awesome.
The other addition to this was a little card I drew up to attach to this jar. It was inspired by Dad quotes found online. Our printer is not hooked up so I could not print them out myself. I borrowed my kids paper, colored pencils, and art table and got to work making these cards. It was fun.
The other thing I did was to write “We heart Dad” on their feet. This is cute because kids feet are not the same as adult feet. Adult feet are smelly, icky, and hairy. Kids feet are tiny, adorable, and so cute I want to eat them! In a sweet, none foot fetish way of course. So I created this simple gift for him and it is something we will both treasure.
With a washable marker, I held down my very ticklish kids as I wrote on their feet. It was rough and almost impossible, those little feet are sensitive but we did it. I took a ton of pictures, constantly saying “feet up”. But they were great. All for the love of their Daddy. Then uploaded it to Walgreens (since my printer is not hooked up), changed it to black and white. Cropped it a little, and picked it up within an hour. Sweet. I think it is a cute idea, it turned out wonderful with their little feet.
I would say total I spent $4 on this. Not including the paper and colored pencils, which I am sure most have. You can put the picture in a frame you have, on a canvas, as a snapshot he can put on his phone. You can get creative with how he receives the picture. I think I nailed this here Fathers day. He does have a few other things we picked up at the store, but this will be what he cherishes the most I am sure. I know if I got something like this I would be crying tears of happiness. He wont cry, he is a man, well maybe some manly tears will come. So if you don’t have a sentimental gift yet, or any gift; you slackers here is one that you can whip up quick and cheap. Get it done, the Daddy’s in our life deserve a little celebrating. Or you know just get him a tie, real original ?
Whew, I wanted to shares these thoughts about Dad’s in general and how much they mean to families with this Low cost Fathers day gift and a note to my Husband. The easy gifts I shared are ones that were a hit in previous years. This year we are working on a sentimental one as well, but Dale is an avid reader of this blog so I cannot share it just yet. But, I will be once we give it to him. I hope you give those strong, sweet, kind, fun, lovable Dads in your life some extra love today. A child with a Daddy in their life has the best start to life, that love is so sweet. I am honored to share this life with Dale and my kids have an amazing Dad.