Alright, today’s post is a little different from our regularly scheduled programming around here. Usually I am all about sharing the inspiration, home improvement projects, crafts and home decor. Today I am Needing home advice, I am the one in need of the advice, or really opinions. You lovely people are the opinionated ones I am relying on. The topic of today is still house related, lets talk homes!
The above picture was taken in our current living room, it was Dale’s parents house then and we had been dating one whole week!
Our current home we purchased from Dale’s parents, they moved into it when it was a brand new house in 2000. When I met Dale 12 years ago we had one of our first dates here at this house, we even had our first kiss at this house! When it came time for us to buy a home my in-laws were looking to sell their house. We bought it, moved in and made it ours. We have put so much work into this home, and because it was his parents before we determined to make it feel like ours. I am not sure we would have started doing DIY projects if we had purchased a brand new home to us. There was a feeling of us wanting to put our own stamp into it.
We were just a family of three, on the same swing set. This was 8 years ago!
The same backyard, just five years of life has passed between these two pictures.
My three kids have never lived anywhere else, this is the home each of them took their first steps in, the same backyard they have played in. Everything in our world up to this point has been in this home. Here is the conundrum, we adore our home and our neighborhood. But, we are outgrowing it! We need a designated office/craft room for me, a larger kitchen, and preferably a 4 bedroom so each child can have their own room.
Our home works perfectly fine, but we are ready for our forever, dream home. The issue is that our town is small, the housing market is freakishly competitive for it being such a small town. We have great schools, low crime rate, and a doable commute to the city if needed.
Dale and I initially planned to put our house on the market this summer and move into a bigger home. We even talked to a realtor who said we will have no problem selling our house. Yay for making this house into a home! However, the issue comes in finding something for us to move into. A competitive housing market, with a small amount of homes for sell means we could end up settling for our forever home. Which means something that would need work done to become our dream home.
We have a few options and I would love to have any advice, opinions or personal experience that maybe you have to share. We can either sell our home and keep our fingers crossed something comes on the market that we love. We can build brand new, but I am not crazy about lots with no tree’s and not an established neighborhood feel.
Or, we can look into turning this home into our dream home. Right now it is a one story 1800 square foot 3 bedroom home. The idea is we add a second story and put all three kids bedrooms upstairs, taking over the first floor as the main living area and our master bedroom. This is a crazy, so much work I cannot even wrap my head around it situation. But, BUT one that Dale and I are seriously considering.
I explained the history with this home, if it comes to us moving out of this home, even if it is to our dream home it will be a sad day. This was our first and only home as a family, this has been our sanctuary and comfort. It is difficult to walk away from something like that. But the home the way it is is not going to work for us long term. As of now the kitchen works to have one person in it, two working in there if there is good communication. Eventually our three kids will be full sized people.
Right now we have a rule or no kids in the kitchen when cooking because there is not enough standing room. I would love to eventually allow my kids to make their own breakfast and lunch when they are home. But three full sized people is near impossible for our kitchen, this is not exaggeration, simple facts of living in a home with a small kitchen. The way the floorplan works we could have a family room, office, kids homework room, and larger kitchen in the downstairs area. However, adding a second story seems crazy. Talk me out of it guys!
We all know I am a full fledged DIYer, but we would bring in the pro’s for this. Although, I know that there will be a ton I will want to do on my own. This whole process seems beyond daunting though. However, so does putting a house on the market, looking at homes, and then finding one that we would need to put a ton of work into anyways.
I am not sure which way we will go yet, we may end up taking the easy way out and do none of it! I don’t see that happening, but sometimes if things are too complicated taking no action feels better. OK, that is called avoidance which is not good. We want our dream, forever home and the possibilities are endless with choices.
Do any of you wonderful people have experience with extensive renovations? Building a new home? Moving to a larger home? Give it all to me, lets talk homes! Dale and I are in the talking stage of this process, not sure where we will end up. The fun and wonderful thing is I have a great group of people to bounce ideas off of. I am looking at you beauties, this is the first of many posts talking about our process and eventual decision. Then the real fun begins with whatever choice we do make.
I will say, from a home decor and DIY blogger perspective the idea of adding a second story has me literally drooling with the possibilities. I would have so much to share, do, inspire, and create! I mean, I would it all with or without the blog but I have a legitimate excuse for going all out. The idea of my kids living in one house for all of their childhood is so comforting, Dale and I having one home we have shared together. All of the memories, moments, and literal surroundings of our home never changing. There is something so romantic and sweet about that. The idea of finding a new home that we pick and put roots down in is also very appealing to us. Grrr…. so many decisions!
In my quest for Needing home advice and this whole discussion of what we should do I have come to realize one important thing, Dale and I are not qualified for these kinds of life decisions. Do you ever feel like a real adult needs to step in and make decisions for you? A more aldultier-adult?! We are capable people, are raising three children, we pay bills, go to work, are fully functional adults. But, decisions like this seem so large that a professional adult needs to come in and tell us what to do. Kids… we got that, no professional needed. Picking how we will move forward with our forever home…. that we need help with!
Let me have it, give me your opinions, what you would do in this situation or any experience of your own.